In June, I was privileged to be a part of the first of its kind training for therapists and coaches to become Partner Specialists through the new non-profit organization, ASPATS- the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. Twenty-nine amazing and passionate professionals attended the training in Dallas Texas. Together we explored how we can best help partners of sex addicts who are dealing with the often debilitating trauma symptoms associated with being in a relationship with an active addict.
We agreed that sex addiction can be highly traumatizing on many levels and within every facet of the partner’s life. In addition, recovery for the person with the addiction has to focus on so much more than merely behavior management to reduce harm to those around them. We had spirited discussions, shared frustrations, encouraged one another, and formed bonds based on our mutual commitment to effective, ethical treatment for partners. We are forming a strong team – a base of clinicians and coaches who are making a difference in the lives of partners and who will help change and shape the profession.
Cincinnati APSATS Training
We are gearing up for our next training, to be held in Cincinnati on October 16-19 at the Cincinnatian Hotel – a historic setting for what continues to be historic work! Online registration is underway and filling up quickly. We will cap registration for this event at 30.
The Ongoing Need
As we continue to see in the news on a regular basis, out of control sexual behaviors occur in all areas of life. Powerful public figures fall in very public ways, leaving their committed partners or spouses to live out much of their shock and trauma in the public eye. Astonishingly, these partners are open to ridicule and become the subject of jokes and inappropriate conjecture. Imagine the isolation these spouses/partners feel who fear public humiliation and have no choice but to ride the waves of trauma as a result of the behaviors of those they love.
It is my hope that as we continue to train professionals and educate the public, these “good wives” as they are often called will cease to be further traumatized by how the public responds to their private hell. We have much work to do! I hope you can join us.
For more information on APSATS and the Cincinnati training, go to www.partnertraumaspecialists.org
Other events coming up:
I will be the keynote speaker at a symposium on Sex Addiction Oct. 4-5 in Cincinnati Ohio.
I will be presenting a workshop with Richard Blankenship at the yearly SASH conference in Boston MA September 21.
I will be presenting a workshop on partner trauma with Richard Blankenship at the American Counseling Association Conference in Honolulu HI in March, 2014
I am in the planning stages of speaking to a group in Calgary Canada in April or May 2014.