Have you seen the new show, The Good Wife? Its about a woman who is betrayed by her husband, a high profile public figure…the very public kind of betrayal. I watched the first episode and was amazed at how the wife in this program reflected so many of the behaviors seen in partners after disclosure of this type of betrayal. She looked in shock. She appeared to dissociate – focusing on the smallest detail of a thread on her husband’s suit coat- while around her the press was eating up the fact that her life had just exploded; exploded due to her husband’s “indiscretions” and betrayal. Yet the program goes on to show her as a strong, determined woman who will survive. That, too reflects what I have seen in so many of the “good wives” I’ve worked with and talked to over the years. They are strong, resilient, resourceful and courageous, and yet hurting women.
How many of us, when we see public figures again and again fall like this, watch the face of the “good wife” who stands there in the public eye and then are reminded of our own shock? I encourage you that, when these events happen whether in “real” life or in television or other media, to remember the strength, endurance, courage, and power you possess. Draw on the strength, power, courage, and endurance that God provides. Lean into the support and care of those safe people around you as you continue in your healing journey. You can do it. You will survive and perhaps find a core of strength develop that you did not know was possible.