I am a Marital and Family therapist and also certified as a Sex Addiction Therapist. In all of my training, the labeling of partners as co-addicts or co-dependent felt uncomfortable to me, as if “share the blame” and focus on how the addict can recover was the solution. Please understand, I absolutely agree that most partners may indeed have some things to work on in therapy (“Do I stay, do I go?” for instance) or related to Family of Origin issues. We cannot ignore the devastation caused by discovery, however. I have seen many shell shocked partners of sex addicts in my office, with almost a ‘deer in the headlights’ look, trying to make sense of what they have learned. This book uses a trauma based, attachment focused (the ideal being a safe base, secure, accessible partner) and loving approach to healing. The explanations offered give validation to the partners’ experience and allow for further growth and direction. This book is beautifully written, user friendly and gives a much needed perspective for partners.