This has been a long winter! For those of us in the Midwest, we are hard pressed to remember a colder and more snow-laden winter. The dark grey fog and clouds, the bitter cold winds, and the never-ending snow have left many wondering if we dare hope for spring. Deep down, we know spring will come and the seasons will move along as they always have. But hoping for what we don’t yet see sometimes feels like folly; we’ll only be disappointed. As I look outside today though, I do see the signs. I see a little green here, a little more blue sky there, and notice warmth to the sun that can’t be denied.
Sometimes, that’s how I experience the work I do advocating for the treatment of partners of sex addicts. It’s been a long period of knowing change needs to come and a difficult season of working to change prevailing counseling models and ways of conceptualizing or understanding the experiences of partners. And just like the undeniable signs of spring, there are undeniable signs that changes- much needed changes- are coming! In some places, this change is in full bloom!
Here are few signs of change I’ve noticed lately:
- Through the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) we have trained over 70 therapists and coaches in the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model.
- Those therapists and coaches come from across the US, Canada and now even Great Britain!
- We have certified some of these trainees and others are well on their way to become certified.
- Several of these trainees and three APSATS board members are participating in a collaborative effort to conduct a large scale research project to help us better understand and describe the needs of partners!
- Several APSATS members and trainees are helping to spread the word and model through teaching/presenting at national conferences. I will be in Honolulu next week with fellow APSATS board member Richard Blankenship to present a workshop at the American Counseling Association’s national conference. Many of us hope to present workshops at the yearly Society of Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH) conference this fall in Oregon.
- APSATS is holding its fourth training for the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model. This time in West Palm Beach Florida in May, and are finalizing details for a training in November – most likely in Washington, D.C.
- I am finalizing details to present to therapists in England in the fall on partner trauma.
So today I am reminding myself that there truly are signs of change – more every day- that help promote hope for what is coming. So much has been accomplished. So much is to come.