I had the privilege of meeting and speaking with a dynamic group of women October 14th outside of Chicago. These partners of addicts shared their stories, supported one another, and gained perhaps a little more understanding of partner recovery over our 7 hours together. Thanks so much to Francoise Mastroianni for hosting this event, which while small, was mighty in every way!
Everywhere I go to talk with partners, I am renewed in my belief in the resilience and courage of these women! I know I focus on trauma and the partner in attempts to help treatment professionals understand the deep emotional wounds often experienced by partners, so long overlooked or minimized. However, I also want to be sure that I clearly state that partners are not victims! I’ve not met a partner yet who wants that as their identity or label! They are powerful. They are survivors and are actively seek healing, restoration and growth in response to and in spite of sex addiction- related betrayal and trauma. They are moving forward and moving more deeply into who they were created to be. I am inspired, humbled, and encouraged in their presence!
If you are a partner, I encourage you to embrace this idea of being powerful and on the move. You are not alone. You have strength and gifts that cannot ultimately be stolen. If you haven’t already, work to find a place, group, therapist or friend who will support this part of who you are. If you are a helper, be sure to tell your clients about their strength and power to heal, restore, and soar!