For those who are partners of sex addicts, it might seem a bit much to ask for a “Happy New Year”- but as 2010 ends, I wanted to spend just a few minutes and highlight some things I am wishing and hoping for in the coming year.
I wish sex addiction would become a more widely recognized and treated condition. This would mean that treatment providers would assess for this on a regular basis- hopefully ending the often years long search for help many couples experience!
I wish counselors and other helpers would treat partners as they treat other women who come into their office for help- as individuals going through extreme stress and with individualized experiences, needs, symptoms, and options- rather than being lumped into a category of “co-dependency” or “co-addiction” that does little to help the partner reeling from the trauma of betrayal.
I wish a group of trained clinicians would join forces and act to advocate for partners and develop protocols for helping partners that can be taught to other clinicians- this is actually underway! A partners task force has been meeting informally for a few months by phone and we will have our first “Best Practices for Partners” symposium in Houston Texas on April 30th!
I wish more partners were aware of resources to help them navigate the path toward healing- to that end, I am updating my web presence and adding a new arm to my counseling practice, focused solely on helping partners of sex addicts: Safe Passages Counseling (part of Steffens Counseling Services). Watch for more on this in the very near future!
My wish for partners themselves: I wish and hope you will know in the depth of your being how strong, courageous, resourceful, able, resilient, and resolute you are and can grow to be!
May you have a blessed New Year!