That’s an interesting word-picture, isn’t it? A broken heart. For me, it stirs up internal pictures of slivers of glass…
You know, its like the most precious glass vase you inherited from your Grandmother, or Great-grandmother. A prized possession- one you take good care of and expect others to honor. Then something unspeakable happens…a careless bump or slippery hands and it falls…and shatters. With the breaking of the glass comes terrible pain- and its almost as if all the memories the glass represents are shattered as well.
I think that’s close to what happens when someone experiences a broken heart, especially as a result of betrayal. This precious heart that we shared with another person is tossed or dropped, but not by some accident. Its a result of betrayal- of someone violating our trust. And when the heart breaks, it takes with it memories that were attached. And hopes. And the way we thought our life would be. Our plans. Our perception of our love and marriage. These things mix in with the shards of pain and no longer seem to fit into the whole of the life we thought we had.
Maybe its like that for you. As a result of the brokenness that comes with betrayal, its as if your heart shattered and all the things held dearly within it shattered at the same time. They are unrecognizable now. They seem distorted. Unreal.
Healing from betrayal involves a lot of things. One important part of healing is the process of salvaging and repairing the heart. But its not like you’re going to pick up all the pieces and put them back just as they were. Its too broken and some of the pieces no longer fit together. There are likely pieces missing…
So what do you do?
I can suggest a few things, but the most important one is this: Allow God to do what He does best- He makes all things new. Even your heart. The healing process can result in a new heart that can hold joy and delight and memories and hope. It can happen. It will happen if you join with Him in the repair process.
God- you know all about broken things. You love broken things- broken people. You know all about betrayal- Your son was so horribly betrayed. Your heart breaks when we betray you. You know this feeling, this experience. We ask that you walk alongside us as we look at the broken pieces and try to take in the reality of what has happened. And as we take stock of what has been broken and begin to feel it and grieve it, we rely on you to give us comfort and strength. We ask you to take all the pieces and make something new out of them.