2013! Here we are, ready for a new year and the opportunities a new year brings!
I’d like to highlight some of this year’s upcoming events. I hope you will be able to participate, but if not I urge you to read more about these organizations by visiting their websites.
- IACSAS is having their national conference in Nashville TN May 9-11 at the Opryland Hotel. This will be an excellent opportunity to hear from a wealth of speakers on topics related to sex addiction from a Christian faith perspective. There is still time to submit a proposal to present or to exhibit at this unique conference! I will be presenting and exhibiting, so I hope to see you there!
- Our new organization, Association for Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) will hold its first training for therapists June 26-29th at the Magnolia Hotel in Dallas Texas. Watch for more information soon!
- I will also be speaking in the St. Louis MO area in March. Watch for more information very soon!
In a recent blog post, the head of POSARC (an online support network for partners) spoke of APSATS, our training program, and the very real need to respond to the trauma experienced by partners. Here is a portion of her blog post:
“Another inspiring development in PoSA-land is that there are now going to be new training programs to train and certify those who work with partners of sex addicts in the trauma model. Yes, that means more validity to what we already knew: that PoSAs are traumatized, not co-addicts and/or codependents.
“If you—or your therapist—still uses the outdated term co-addict, consider all the good reasons to ditch it in 2013. …We’re very grateful to see the beginnings of what will surely help treatment options for PoSAs gain traction: the modalities used to treat trauma are much more comprehensive than just talk therapy, though a good counselor, coach or therapist may help greatly just with talk therapy or coaching alone.
“We’re excited that the pioneers of the trauma model, Dr. Barbara Steffens and Dr. Omar Minwalla, are taking their stand for PoSAs in the sex addiction recovery world. That recovery world has been notoriously lagging in recognizing our needs and rights to good treatment for the damages sustained by the actions of a sex addict.
“In many cases the sex addiction community has often been ignorant at best, hurtful at worst, in their warehousing of PoSAs into 12-step meetings and simply parroting that we leave the sex addict alone and ‘work our own programs.’ Hey, we’d be glad to, but for the infidelity bombs constantly detonating in our own homes, hearts and minds thanks to the often-intransigent sex addicts.
“It’s high time the recovery community saw us as equal and worthy of our own trauma treatment, not just as the treatment accessories for the addict, where we are often supposed to passively accept just about anything and everything that the sex addict says/does. Bollocks. Thank you, Dr. Steffens!”
I hope you share in my excitement as we start the year off with several excellent opportunities in the works that will help promote advocacy and support for partners.
Blessings to you and your loved ones!